MS-UK Counsellor Kerry Trevethick shares her words of advice on how to manage the easing of lockdowns across the UK, as the end of restrictions is in sight and how to be kind to yourself during this time.
Across the UK, lockdown is easing and whilst many people can’t wait for restrictions to be eased and be able to socialise with friends and family again, many others may feel anxious or apprehensive about returning to things we haven’t done for a while and our old routines. Lockdown may have been difficult for many reasons but it provided a level of certainty and clarity on the rules and what we were to expect. However the easing of restrictions is less clear cut, and this can be stressful and anxiety provoking.
There are a range of different emotions that you may be experiencing such as:
- Anxiety and worry
- Low mood and depression
- Confusion or feeling conflicted
- Feeling unsupported
- Feeling unsafe
- Grief and loss
It’s important to acknowledge that these feelings are valid and reasonable, and just like it may have taken time to adjust to going into the first lockdown, it may take time for us to adjust to life post-lockdown. It is okay if it takes time to adjust to life changing again.
Some people may find it very difficult in making decisions about how to keep safe now, who they should see or avoid, where should they go or not go - this is normal. For a long time, these decisions were made for us. We may feel that the responsibility of this decision making is too much, but you can take things at your own pace and remember there is no rush to get back to your old routines – you can be in control of how fast things move for you but be wary of avoidance as this can help maintain anxiety.
For some people, life post-lockdown will look very different. Maybe you have been bereaved, lost a job or had a relationship breakdown, and it is okay to feel this grief and there are organisations that can help you.
There are things that we can do to help ourselves manage our feelings as lockdown is eased and these are outlined below:
- Keep healthy habits – just as this was important in helping us cope when lockdown first began, habits such as eating well, getting enough sleep, physical exercise and being out in nature, these things can also help us cope now.
- Pace yourself – don’t let others put pressure on you to do things that you don’t want to do but do try and gently challenge yourself to increase the amount of activities that you feel comfortable in doing.
- Control the things that you can – restrictions have meant we haven’t had much control over our lives recently but there are things that we can control and it is important to remember this. It can also be helpful to find ways to let go of the things that are beyond our control.
- Focus on the here and now – restrictions can change so quickly and this can feel stressful, focussing on the present can help. We can only do our best with what we have right now.
- Talk to people – talking about our feelings to people we trust can be really helpful, you may even find that they have similar feelings too.
- Get support from an organisation – if you are really struggling with your mental health then support from an organisation or counselling may be helpful. Talk to your GP or local mental health team. Organisations such as Mind and Anxiety UK can also help.